The Attack on Love

Duane Vander Klok

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Satan is a master of deception and will do whatever he can to destroy marriages. He knows that a strong marriage is a threat to his plan to destroy the children of God. We need to be aware of the lies that Satan tries to feed us so that we may resist and fight back.

One of the biggest lies regarding marriage in our culture today is that love is only a feeling. We are told that love is what you feel toward another person and that divorce is the answer when it fades. But the truth is that love is a choice and is shown through actions. A godly marriage does not require that you feel a certain way toward your spouse at all times, but that you choose to show love to them every day.

It is easy to act lovingly when emotions are involved, but take care that you continue to love and pursue your spouse even as emotions fade in and out. While in the dating and honeymoon phase, pursuing and caring is much easier. But as time goes on, many of us fall into the trap of prioritizing other things above our spouse. The Bible tells us that the foundation of a good marriage is to honor God and value and appreciate your spouse.

Satan will also try to tell you that you married the wrong person or that you would be better off with someone else. One of his biggest lies throughout our lives is that the grass is always greener somewhere else – to have different parents, a different body, a different school, or a different spouse. But understand that God can love and use you wherever you are.

The best marriages are built on the love and Word of God. Put Him first in all you do, and watch how He is able to work in your life!